Asking This One Question Changes Everything
Unlocking Love: The Power of Clarity and Flow
My book, The List Method—a science-based approach to finding the love of your life has produced astounding results. Nearly everyone who has read the book has found their soulmate. What’s even more surprising? Many of them didn’t even complete the workbook! Simply absorbing the information helped shift their focus and attract the partner of their dreams.
Why Some People Still Struggle to Find Love
However, not everyone experiences this transformation. Some people read the book but still struggle to meet someone they find attractive. Why? Subconscious barriers. Deep-seated beliefs and fears block their desires without them even realizing it. If you’ve been searching for love but feel stuck, there’s a good chance your subconscious is getting in the way.
The Power (and Trap) of the Subconscious
Here’s the truth: we only see about 1% of the world clearly. The rest is shaped by our minds—our past experiences, beliefs, and fears. We think we’re seeing reality, but in truth, we’re just encountering reflections of our inner world over and over again.
Whenever you’re not getting what you want in life, it’s almost always because a subconscious belief is blocking you.But since these beliefs exist below our awareness, we can’t consciously change them—leaving us frustrated and stuck in repetitive cycles.
Breaking Free from Circular Thinking
We all have moments of dissatisfaction—times when we recognize something in our life that isn’t working. Some people take immediate action, visualizing a solution and moving forward. But many of us get stuck fixating on the problem, replaying the same frustrations over and over.
Have you ever wanted to start exercising but kept putting it off? Or vowed to eat healthier, only to find yourself reaching for another donut? That’s subconscious programming at work. Your thoughts aren’t truly yours—your fears and limiting beliefs are running the show.
Clarity is the Key
When the subconscious hijacks you, even the best self-help advice won’t help—because you can’t take conscious action in the subconscious. That’s why clarity is so crucial. Just like using The List Method for love, having clear intentions for all areas of life helps guide you—even when you’re not fully aware of it. Clarity activates the law, even when you’re not paying attention.
Are You Going Upstream or Downstream?
Life is like a river. When you go with the flow, things feel easy and enjoyable. When you struggle against the current,everything feels like an exhausting battle. The key to unlocking love—and everything else you desire—is learning to flow downstream.
Right now, ask yourself:
Am I going upstream (stressed, frustrated, blaming others)?
Or am I going downstream (grateful, open, at ease)?
Everything you want is downstream. If you find yourself resisting, there are simple ways to shift your energy:
Take a deep breath.
Put on some uplifting music.
Step outside and look at the horizon (this releases serotonin).
Think of something in your life that is working and feel gratitude for it.
Smile—even if it feels forced.
Small Shifts, Big Changes
Practicing this awareness regularly can permanently shift your energy. Since life happens inside your head, changing your internal state transforms your entire experience. When you flow with the river instead of fighting it, love and happiness come naturally—and you’ll soon find that things are heading your way much more often.
