Apples & Oranges

You Are Always Creating

It’s true—you have the power to be, do, and have anything you want. But your creative power didn’t just begin when you started thinking with focus. You have been shaping your life all along. Your current love life, your body, your career, and your financial situation—all of it is the result of your past awareness and understanding. Now, you might wish you had done things differently. Maybe you feel you should be further along, and instead of forgiving yourself, you beat yourself up. But that’s not how growth works.

Incomparable & Priceless

Self-esteem is the foundation for how much love, beauty, health, and success you allow yourself to have. Unfortunately, many struggle to assess themselves positively because they compare themselves to others. But comparison is always unfair. You’ll inevitably measure your weakest points against someone else’s strengths. It’s a losing battle.

I love people-watching. It’s fascinating to see the infinite variety—short, tall, curvy, lean. Some dress like they don’t own a mirror, while others look meticulously polished. But what stands out to me is that no two people look alike. Even with identical outfits, no one is a copy. We are each completely unique expressions of consciousness.

When something is one of a kind, it is considered highly valuable. An Aston Martin DBR1 sold for $22 million—and there are five of them! Van Gogh’s Starry Night sold for $50 million, yet it is just a painting. It simply exists. If inanimate objects can be worth millions, how much more valuable are you—a conscious, creative being?

Unfair Angles

Despite this, we judge ourselves harshly, often focusing on our worst angles. I recently spoke with a woman devastated by a bad photo of herself. She had worn something unflattering to a barbecue, and someone captured her at an awkward angle. That single photo burned itself into her mind, convincing her that she always looked that way.

That’s so unfair! Even supermodels take bad photos. When I modeled, photographers shot dozens of pictures just to find one usable image. A single perfect shot could end up on a magazine cover, while 49 others were discarded. If a model focused on the bad shots, she’d leave every session in tears.

We all have different tastes, and not everyone will see beauty the same way. The world would be boring if they did. Which flower is the most beautiful? Which color is best? Each has its own perfection. You are perfect for someone who is waiting to adore you. My beloved thinks I’m stunning—even on days when I feel off. To her, I am perfect love. And you are perfect, too, when seen from the right angle.

Intrinsic Perfection

Stop letting your worst angles define your worth. Instead, find and embrace your best. Why let someone else’s opinion carry more weight than your own? Accept yourself as you are—because there is literally no one else like you. You are incomparable. By definition, that makes you perfect.

Would you ever look at a breathtaking sunset and say, “That’s flawed”? Of course not. You recognize its beauty. And yet, you come from the same source as that sunset. The universe creates only perfection—it’s up to you to see it.

The Hand You’re Dealt

Even if you don’t feel at your best right now, that doesn’t change your fundamental worth. Recently, another teenage girl took her own life because she “didn’t fit in.” But none of us fit in! We are all unique, irreplaceable pieces of a grand puzzle. You are one of a kind. Who could you possibly compare yourself to?

Maybe there’s something you don’t like about yourself. But so what? Those are the cards you were dealt. You wouldn’t trade a royal flush because you prefer hearts over spades. Your unique combination is your power.

Flawlessness

Why would you diminish yourself over a nose you wish were different? Or talents you wish you had? Your features, abilities, and quirks are yours alone, which makes them perfect. Accepting this truth determines how much love, joy, and success you will allow into your life.

If you label yourself a “seven out of ten,” you set that limit for yourself. You’ll look at others—those you perceive as eights, nines, or tens—and wonder why they seem to have it all. But the truth is, you are the one who decided you were a seven. In reality, you are a ten. Not compared to anyone else—but compared to you.

Changing the Premise

Start here: “I’m perfect the way I am. Yes, I could improve in some areas, and I will. But that doesn’t change who I am at my core.” This mindset shift makes transformation possible. If you call yourself a “fat slob,” you make those extra pounds part of your identity, and they’ll never leave. If you see yourself as ugly and unworthy, you block the love and abundance meant for you.

The moment you change your premise about yourself, your entire world changes. You are meant to have it all. And you can. But only if you recognize that you are already perfect—completely unique, entirely valuable, and beyond compare.