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How many heartbreaks have you had to experience before telling yourself there is no “true love”? How many relationships that started like fairy tales but ended in heartaches have you witnessed?

Your experiences and what you have witnessed others go through in their relationships can be enough to make you think that there is no such thing as a happily ever after, even for you!

But wait! There’s more!

In spite of all the bad relationships, there is still a chance for you. YOU CAN FIND TRUE LOVE!

How is that possible?

How to Find True Love

Finding true love is not all rainbows and sunshine. Someone once said, “If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”

In other words, to find your true love (rainbow), you must be willing to put in the work (put up with the rain)!

Wait, what? What work? Doesn’t love just happen?

Well, love that “just happens” is often what destroys your faith in true love! This type of love is a combination of physical attraction seen through the eyes and your hormones sending messages to your brain and telling you that what you “see” is “love” – no other criteria.

Although we do not discredit those folks who have found their life partners at first sight or by chance and have lived happily together for a long time, it is often not the case for everybody.

Imagine love as a garden (I talk about this in my upcoming book, “The List”). In this garden, you have different kinds of plants. Each plant requires a unique way of nurturing and caring. You can’t nurture a vegetable the way you would a shrub or a tree!

Before you nurture anything in your garden, you must first build that garden. You need to plan out how it will look and what plants get planted on which plots.

After the planning comes the execution. You have to work on the garden – remove the weeds, form the plots, till the soil, make sure you have water, and that there is enough sunlight.

You are the garden – if you want to find love, work on yourself first and create a plan. In other words, you need to make a List and everything you need and want has to go on this List, because the clearer your plan, the faster the execution.

Then open yourself up to opportunities by executing your plan. That’s what it means to do the work to find true love. Do not rely on luck for luck is just that – a wish in the wind that may or may not happen.