"The List Method helped me understand what is getting in my way as I seek true love."

George Sand said, “there is only one happiness in life, and that is to love and be loved.” It’s in our nature as human beings to long for sweet, harmonious, devoted love. We’re simply wired that way, which is why a successful personal relationship carries with it enormous physical, mental, and practical benefits. 

There is a unique sense of confidence and competence and an abiding sense of joy that arises from a successful, intimate relationship that cannot be attained in any other way. Life changes when you share your life with someone who completely adores you, worship the ground you walk on, and does anything for you. You’ll find yourself living on a whole new level. Numerous medical research studies have concluded that people in harmonious relationships not only live considerably longer but also remain far healthier. Of course, when you’re in it, you don’t need scientific studies to tell you this because you feel it every moment of every day. From the moment my eyes open in the morning, seeing the love of my life lying next to me brings a smile to my face. I can’t help it. She is a vision, stunning, sexy, absolutely gorgeous – at least to my eyes. Because she’s my “One.” Then she wakes up, and I see her love for me in her eyes, and it takes my breath away! I cannot believe my luck that I get to wake up next to such an angel who is so perfect for me. I only pray that I get to spend ten more lifetimes with her. That’s the way love is meant to feel!

What's In The Way of Your Heart's Desire

Whether we admit it to ourselves or not, deep down we all dream of having such a love. We want it; we need it. Sadly, very few ever seem to find it. So, we tell ourselves that we’re fine without it. We ignore the gnawing sadness that robs us of vital energy. We keep ourselves busy, seeking distraction so we don’t have to feel the pervasive loneliness. Franklin P Jones said, “Love doesn’t make the world go around. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” But we’ve never found it, so we tell ourselves that a fairytale romance is just that – a fairytale, a unicorn, something that doesn’t really exist in nature. Of course, that very belief becomes a huge roadblock of finding it. You can’t achieve success by looking at all the myriad failures and you can’t find love by looking at the rotten relationships all around. You can’t set out by believing that it takes “hard work” to be in a relationship – because whatever you believe, you always get to be right!

The reason we don’t find that epic fairytale love is not that it doesn’t exist; it’s because of the completely wrong way we go about finding it. We seem to think it should just magically happen by accident but what in life ever works like that? The important stuff never just falls in your lap. You have to know what you want in order to get it because if you don’t know what you want, chances are slim that you’ll ever find it! 

There is actually a scientific reason for that. The human mind perceives only through the limited framework of our beliefs. There is an area in the brain called the reticular activating system that actually filters, sorts, and sifts through your experiences and highlights for your only those things you believe. So, history must necessarily always repeat itself and life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – or at least it seems that way.  

Could it be that the only thing that separates you from your heart’s desire is your head? Could it be that the only barrier to the epic romance you are secretly dreaming of, is within you? Perhaps it’s worth being a little more open minded when it comes to love - at least don’t be so convinced that unicorns don’t exist. Because they surely do!

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